Hi, I’m dr. sarah watters

Thanks for coming.

Stay for a while. This is going to be fun.

I have a PhD in Behavioral Science aka I’ve spent a lot of time learning about why we do some things and not others.

People are going to try to tell stories for you… About what you should do at work… About why that friend is being weird or the person you went on a thought-to-be great date with is MIA. You’ll be tempted to buy what they’re selling; it’s the easy thing to do.

It’s what most of us do without even actually noticing. You may hear people parrot a default narrative that it’s just how things are.

But they’re wrong.

Amid an intense and productive meeting of a creative agency

Your 30s

Is everything how you thought it would be? nice one.

Excerpts from THIS IS NOT HOW I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE:

dating

Shitty stories are the stickiest. Why do I feel the need to be everything to everyone, including this unmatching man? Maybe that guy unmatched me because he wanted a one-night stand or had acronyms in his profile that I overlooked. Maybe he was traveling. I do not know, but I do blame myself. At least a tiny bit.

work

It’s completely possible that the narrative I’m just not that type of person was catalyzed by the summers all the Annas interned at Goldman or Bain while I was pretending to be on a lazy river in my friend’s parents’ backyard pool instead of—the far more responsible and life-altering act of—seeking out high-visibility internships, or even low-viz, low-pay “seasonal” roles, for that matter.

friendship

Without caregivers and other parents to chatter with through (internal screaming and) minutes and hours of each day, playdate, and party, I and others without small humans are left reading articles about why it feels so weird to Make New Friends as an Adult.